My holiday break was restful and restorative, and with a new car and a few other personal upgrades, I went back to work last week feeling like a brand new person.
As I said in my previous post, I’m looking forward to the 2020s as a time of hope, healing and prosperity. I’m going to start by being intentionally more selfish and kind.
At first those two concepts may seem to be mutually exclusive, however, one thing I’m learning about myself is that when I devote my energy to “selfish” things like quiet time alone, working on art projects, going to bed early and setting boundaries, it leaves me feeling restored.
I have more energy to devote to my relationships. My social interactions are higher quality and I feel inspired, not drained, afterwards. Now when I say yes to something, it’s because I actually want to, and not because I’m trying to meet outside expectations. When I do something for someone else, it’s because I’m fortunate enough to actually have the time, money or energy to afford to do so; not because I feel like I “should”.
One could argue that being more selfish leads one to being more kind. 🙂 Maybe that’s a stretch. *sips tea*
Rolling into 2020 (with my new set of wheels–so long, duck tape doors!), I’m still the same person: just a little more well-defined and little less worried about the rest of it.
Annie you are on a roll
You go girl ! I pray you continue to prosper and be in good health even as your soul prospers. I love you forever and so proud of you too.
You are blessed my Annie
Self-love may be misconstrued to being selfish, as kindness to weakness. We ponder, can one truly thrive in life without self-love and kindness? As you’ve eloquently implied, certainly not. How wonderful it is to grasp this paradox at such a tender age, Dear One.